There are times in our lives where the decision we face is one that can change our entire life and shape our whole future. There was a day like that for me and the way its changed my life for the better is something I can truly say is the best decision I have ever made.
I had been gradually drifting away from religion, psychologically and physically. Saturday nights out had meant suffering on a Sunday morning and I'd stay in bed to get out of going to meetings. The only thing that kept me attending at all was fear of the disappointment of my parents and the upset I would cause them by saying that I just didn't want to do it anymore.
On one of the many nights out that I enjoyed I met a young lady who caught my eye and luckily for me for some reason liked the look of me. Even though the signs should have been there for what the future held as she remembers watching me play the bandit, beer in hand in our local pub. I can remember her face and smile from those nights in the pub, I'd never felt like that before with anyone. Yes I'd been infatuated before but not like this, this was something more. We'd been seeing each other for a while and we're becoming inseparable. My mum and dad got wind of what was going on and had me come and see them as they wanted to ask me something.
The question came. It's either her or the 'truth'(what they call their faith) you know it can't be both. Which is it?
Well actually it could have been both thinking about it, but that's not what I wanted. I wanted her. We'd already had fallings out over why I wouldn't introduce her to my parents and I kept her as a secret for a while. So the answer for me, although an extremely difficult decision to make I knew in my heart what I wanted. I'm sure my parents were upset and had many sleepless nights over me because all parents want the best for their kids and in their eyes I was rejecting them and all the values and principles that I had been raised to follow. I know my parents love me and I love them too, I didn't do it to rebel against them or to piss them off. It happened because it was meant to happen. We've been married 14 years now and have 3 beautiful kids, yes we've had our problems but we've stuck together and worked our socks off to make it work. Love and relationships are too essential in life not to follow your heart. I'm so glad I did.
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